PG18 post today. Well, who under the age of 21 learns BaZi anyway?
Now you might ask – what is mindf**k?
Well Urban Dictionary has one set of definitions but I think it’s one of those very open to debate terms. quite like “a concept or argument which is fraught with contradictions, and is used as a control tool”. Wiktionary puts it more tastefully: “Something that intentionally destabilizes, confuses or manipulates the mind of another person.”
My definition of mindf**k is when the universe (or in this case, your BaZi chart) plays mind games with you. Which really means, you play mindgames with yourself.
How sick is that?
Mindf**k is what happens in the following scenarios:
- You know what you are SUPPOSED TO DO. (also known as ‘The Answer’) But you hate that you have to do it. As a result, you constantly churn between a state of self-doubt and self-confidence, between confident knowing, and insecure not knowing.
- You know the situation that you are about to go into will not have a good outcome. Your BRAIN tells you this. But the other part of your body (heart or the 卯 or 酉 depending on your gender) tells you to do otherwise. The result, you get into something that you know will never work out, but you can’t seem to stop yourself anyway.
Mindf**k is in essence, intellectualised hand-wringing. It almost always never involves stupidity. It almost always involves intelligence. And emotions. And it almost always certainly involves doing something destructive to yourself but which you have convinced yourself is otherwise.
Why is mindf**k important in the world of BaZi? Because there are many instances wherein a particular interaction appears in the chart, and the outcome of that interaction is actually nothing more than mindf**k.
Mindf**k is the worst kind of problem to deal with. Because well, it’s all mental. It doesn’t involve actual action a person can take, so much as making them change the way they think or perceive something. It involves forcing the person to accept the reality of the situation, and making a practical choice rather than what is the emotionally satisfying yet almost certainly also emotionally destructive path. What sucks about mindf**k is that it is not easy to overcome, and often involves a lot of circularity of thinking. The person thinks, and then ponders, and then constantly seeks validation, but then is uncertain even when they have received that validation. When they are given a clear path, they fight against that path because something doesn’t feel right (read: they didn’t LIKE that choice).
Mindf**k scenarios usually involve the Resource Stars because these are the Stars that govern thinking and feelings, as well as decision-making ability. Typically when you see a Punishment or Destruction that involves a Resource Star, you can bet there will be some serious mindf**k that is the root cause of the person’s problems. To then determine what is the subject matter of the mindf**k, you just look at the Star that the Resource Star is interacting with.
Eg: Bing Zi 丙 子 Day Master, encountering a Mao 卯 in the Year. This creates an Uncivilised Punishment with the Spouse Star (Zi 子 ) and involving the Resource Star (Yi 乙 Wood inside Mao). Since it involves thinking (Resource Star) and husband or boyfriend (Spouse Star), the simplified interpretation is that there will be a mindf**k scenario emerging, that involves a romantic relationship (remember, Peach Blossom involved).
The mindf**k effect is usually higher with an Indirect Resource Star because Indirect Resource is the Star that governs paranoia, wild and unorthodox thoughts and of course, unconventional thinking. But you can still get it of course with the Direct Resource Star.
Mindf**k effect can also occur when the Stars are in a Combination-Destruction relationship which of course, only occurs with two branches:
Eg: Ding Hai 丁 亥 Day Master (Female) in a Tiger 寅 Year like 2010. There is a combination-destruction involving the Spouse Star (亥 Hai) and the Resource Star (寅 Yin). Now, you could say that the woman’s husband and her mother don’t get along with each other. OR, if the woman is single, you could say, she has issues making up her mind regarding a prospective Spouse or BF that comes along, eventhough she really wants to get married (effect of the Combo).
As I mentioned above, mindf**k is hard to deal with. A consultant can only do so much. And because the interaction occurs in the chart, the thoughts will gravitate in that direction. As such, the challenge is to redirect the person productively and get them to listen to the right voice, amidst the cacophony of voices.
Alternatively, tell them that mindf**k is part of life, and that since it is inevitable, let it happen. BUT, put a timer on it. Allow yourself only a limited period of time to agonise, hand-wring and be insufferable.
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